This is a question that is often highly debated: Christians are single and have more than one person at a time.
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It is often debated because it is such a vague question. Before we even start attacking this issue, we must consider: In any case, what is the purpose of the appointment? And - we shouldn't be in love with #39; instead of ' dating'?
What is the purpose of the appointment? According to today's culture, this is a way to get to know someone, go out with a member of the opposite sex, let someone escort you [or be escorted] to an important event or [depending on how secular you are] to get a normal sexual partner. the way. Courtship is considered a date, but there is a very important warning: you see that person is ready to get married. Therefore, courtship is often considered to be more serious.
So, back to the original question [now we have a job definition for dating], do Christians have more than one person at a time? What do you think about this?
I personally think this is a bad idea. why? Because, in all things, the more factors you put into the pool, the more chaotic things will be. Suppose you go out with Bill [the person you like], occasionally spend time with Tim [because he has a very cool car] and just start seeing Steve [because he is good]. What do you think all these relationships will become? You like Bill, but when you play with him and two other men, he is likely to lose his way in the shuffle. Tim is cool, but he doesn't have much to say. However, you saw a personal climax in his Corvette, so you continue to waste time with him. Steve? You may or may not like him, but you don't know because you don't have the time or energy to spend time with him! So you are dating three men, but you don't get a lot of fun. Are you having fun?
I think it is easier [and more efficient] to date a person. In a perfect world, I would even recommend courtship, not dating. Then you will know that what you are doing is to know each other and prepare to marry that person. But I realize that we are not living in a perfect world [and most men and women are not prepared until they spend more time on one person], so my best advice is to take a little time. On one person. people. [When I said in the previous chapter that you should ' keep your choice' this usually applies to the person you just met. If you casually date someone and finally decide that you want to be serious Who, it is time to close these choices.]
why? Because your life is very fulfilling - you have a church, you have your family, you have friends, you may be school and work. More than one person will definitely detract from all of these things. I think your time will be better used to build your life, finances and your relationship with God. And, as I mentioned in the previous chapter, "Does singleness mean that your life will be suspended?" When you are single, you focus on God. And serve him. As a married person, you will naturally become more focused on pleasing your partner. So, since you know that this happens when you get married, it is important to be a person to ensure that God is your main focus, so that you can establish this relationship when you get married [with God] [because with God builds a strong relationship that will enable you to build a strong relationship with your husband. If you date a few people, you will not be able to focus on the relationship with God!
So if you are dating more than one person now, please seriously consider why. Do you think that none of them are very satisfied as potential partners? Do you want to be a player? Don't you want to be serious now? Or do you think this is the norm?
And, after you have answered these questions, please consider whether this is the best use of your time. Only you know what is happening in your life, so only you can make a decision. I only hope [and pray] that you make the best choice for yourself.
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