Relationship conflict - explosion or explosion

From time to time I hear a "relationship expert" saying that they have never argued with their spouse. This is when I find myself thinking that this person is lying or not being able to contact me.

Conflicts come from all relationships. This is how we deal with conflicts that make the difference between great relationships and breakups in finding a place where it might happen.

3 ways to avoid

Explosion - Explosion is one of the most common ways to deal with conflicts, especially for men. Somehow, we are notified that being angry with something can solve any problem. Maybe it's for us to model at home, or sometimes anger is the emotion we are most familiar with.

There are only a few problems with this approach. The best thing is to keep people away. The worst case is to scare them and even scare them away.

It also did not solve the problem.

Blow In - Blowing in is accepting all the annoying feelings caused by the conflict and swallowing them, stuffing them inside. This is the kind of conversation that often happens:

Partner 1: "Do you like this movie?"

Partner 2: "Very good."

Partner 1: "Do you like this music?"

Partner 2: "Very good."

Partner 1: "Do you want to see it again?"

Partner 2: "Well?"

Oh, oh.

One of the problems with bragging is that if you use it as a way of life and a lifetime, it can make you sick and even kill you. The body can only take so much poison before it causes damage.

Another problem that boasted is that anger and resentment will grow and accumulate. Sometimes a few minutes or days, sometimes years, but the explosion is coming. So, blow in, you guessed it, exploded.

Blowing: This looks so innocent, from the statement "Hey, it's no big deal" until "Oh, just overcome and get life!"

However, it is not so innocent.

Blow away and send at least three bad messages:

=> You don't understand,
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  => You don't count,
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  => Your feelings are not important or don't care.

Only one of the above, you are in trouble.

With these three, you will break up and look for places that may happen.

Better way of handling

Blowing - here are some quick and easy steps:

1] Treat conflicts as enemies, not each other. Although it is easier said than done, it makes a huge difference. From the perspective of relationships, conflicts are enemies, which allows you to do two important things:

=> Avoid fighting is correct,
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  => Team up and attack the problem together.

2] Identify conflicts. Name it to tame it.

3] Check it out. Throw away everything you have. All your creativity, stupidity and crazy ideas, all the skills, solutions and tools you have, will solve this problem in a way that suits you.

And this is not all.

In order to really break the conflict, you still have one thing to do...........

4] Set it to be unlikely to happen again. When such a conflict reappears, they will, you now have a game plan, a "our way" to handle it, so that you can pass it directly.

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