The story of Katie and Kris Katie and Kris met for the first time as a mutual friend. When Katie was 17 and Kris was 18, Katie continued to visit Kris with her friends and shyly hang around with them a few times, Kris and Katie. Decided to start their first date on January 28, 2013. Since then, Katie and Chris have celebrated their dance and stood there to watch high school graduates. On August 26, 2016, they took their relationship to the next step and got married. Chris ' mother can fly all the way from South Korea to the wedding. They also found their favorite Korean restaurant in their city, how to open difficulties, and constantly learn from each other. They are currently working to make Kris' permanent residence in Canada, and then they can start another chapter of their journey together. Applying for citizenship in another country can be very stressful, but as long as they support each other, they will know that they will pass it.
Problem with her
Our first date...
We went to the theater to watch the guilty journey. We also went out to play with friends, so we were not really alone during this time. We are still very shy to each other! Whenever we make eye contact, we always smile and divert our attention. It feels like a middle school is smashing again, and this never happened before me!
In the first few months of the appointment, my trade destroyer will be...
If he is dishonest or rude to my friends or family. I need someone to accept someone I like and be with me. For example, if his family does not accept me, or when I am talking about me in another language, and he hides this, it will be a huge destruction. Or, if he is rude to people who act or look different, I can't go beyond it.
I know that he is suitable for me...
I have accumulated a small amount of time in my heart. Finally, the only name in my heart is Chris. We will spend a few hours sitting down to share opinions about things and discover that we have shared a deep feeling about sensitive topics. Or, for example, once, when he talked about the show he saw, I was frightened because this show was one of my favorite shows, and no one knows the show except my best friend. Over!
When he was... I was shocked by culture.
Explain to me the education situation in Korea. We complain that it may take an hour of homework in North America, but imagine going to learn for a day. People stereotyped that Asians are very smart, but they don't really think about what they have experienced to achieve this goal. Time for study and after-school courses. Education helps them to have a place in society, especially when they apply for secondary school in Korea.
The three things I love him are...
His manners, protection and kindness. From the first day I met him, these were the first things that bothered me. He is very different from the people I dated before. This is the way he grew up. I really respect him and honestly changed me to be a better person. Even if I hate him, it is difficult for me to judge and try to express respect for people.
The biggest misunderstanding of his country is...
Everyone eats dogs. When I was young, I was initially shocked by me and found that other cultures ate animals like cats and dogs. I can't understand it. Chris explained to me that when he was young, he ate dog meat and didn't know what type of meat it was. He understood why I was upset about this issue, but he also reminded me that I must take a step back and look at my culture. In some cultures, eating cows or pigs is sinful or even illegal. We think this is normal because we are raising cows and pigs mainly for consumption. People in some parts of South Korea only raise dogs for consumption. Not every Korean eats dog meat, because I have both dogs and cats, so talking about me is always a sensitive topic, but in the face of other people's themes, you always need an open mind. culture. What is right for one culture may be wrong for another culture
The best thing he has done for me is...
When I have an anxiety disorder at his home. We only dated for about 2 weeks, this is my first time to go to his home. I scared my anxiety. When this happens, I don't want anyone to touch me or I feel closed. He didn't know what was going on because he had never heard of a mental illness like anxiety. I am sure he will break up with me. I know that all my former boyfriends will call me crazy and leave. But no, I was lying on the grass in front of his house trying to calm myself down in the cold air, where he was next to me and waiting for me. No one else can quickly accept my mental illness, especially since he has no prior knowledge of it. He even looked anxiously to better help me understand what I was going through. He surpassed me.
In this relationship, I learned that my most important thing is...
I love myself. I have a very negative opinion about my physical and spiritual self. Chris first heard me talking about himself, he was very angry and serious. He looked into my eyes and told me not to talk about myself like this. I need to love myself and watch myself look at me; beautiful.
If there is a suggestion I can give to my Western girlfriends, they are in the AMWF relationship...
Be patient and be willing to learn. Not just Western girls, but girls who seek to build relationships with people of different cultures. Entering this relationship, we have a lot of things that we don't understand about each other's culture. When we don't understand cultural things, we often get angry with each other. Have the patience to learn from each other. There may be something you might not like, but you don't have to like it. A person's culture is part of them, and you should accept it and accept it to make them a reality. Even today, Kris and I can still learn from each other, and we will still learn from each other in the future. If you want to try some Korean snacks, try it! Occasionally leaving your comfort zone won't kill you because they have to do the same for you!
Question about him
Asked her for the first time...
hard. I have never had a girlfriend, I am a shy person. However, she is beautiful to me, this is the first [and last] in my life. The date is better than I thought [after all, this is my first date]. We are very shy and a bit embarrassed, but I can say that we have had a good time.
I know she is suitable for me...
This is not a specific event. It's more like everything we do together. We have a lot in common. Together, we have experienced a lot of situations. I think these experiences made me realize that she is "that person."
When I was... I was shocked by culture.
It's not just her, but when I first arrived in Canada, the high school time here was 3:30, which was a bit shocking. In Korea, my school [at least when I was back in high school] ended at 9 to 10 pm.
The three things I like about her are...
First of all, I like her look [even if she disagrees with me]. Secondly, I like that she has a lot in common with me. Finally, I like the way she tries to understand me.
The biggest misunderstanding about her country and culture is...
Because I have a relative who has been to Canada many times, I really have no misunderstanding. I have a general understanding of the situation living here.
She likes to play with me...
When we were in bed, she wished me to lick her back or arm until she fell asleep... joking! We like to do a lot of things together, such as playing video games [aura, battlefield, radiation], shopping [she shopping, I am holding her bag haha], just relaxing and watching movies together.
She hates me...
Because she is a bit like a morning, and I like to sleep very late, so she hates it when I go to bed. We even have the latest time to go to bed, because sometimes my computer noise will make her sleepless at night.
In this relationship, I learned that my most important thing is...
I used to think that I was not right. I have never had a girlfriend and very few friends. This makes me more shy and quiet when talking to girls. However, she loves me and hopes that I have my own love.
If there is a suggestion, I can give those friends who are involved in the AMWF relationship...
Talking about building relationships with others. The game should not be something else. Whether she/she is white, Asian or black, the only important thing in the relationship is to be with her and not their race.
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